I am Linda Kaiser and my husband is Matt Kaiser. We have 5 children. Two teens, two toddlers and one in heaven. Our church is Bethel Baptist Church in Imperial, MO.
We have been in the ministry for 5 years.
Proverbs 11:13 13 A talebearer * revealeth secrets: but he that is of a faithful spirit concealeth the matter.
I was saved in 2002 at 29 years old. I grew up in a good home but it was not a Christian home.
As Pastors wives we must endure a lot of good and some not so good. So, how do we deal with the not so good? One thing that
I have learned early in my Christian life is to be loyal. This trait is important to me because my family lacked loyalty which is required in strong relationship building.
For example, if I confided in my mom about something, she might tell her sister and
I would eventually find out her sister knew even though I told mom not to tell anyone. This would hurt me and my trust with my mom.
My father on the other hand was pretty good at keeping my secrets and because of this, I felt that I could trust him.
Some of our husbands are leaders in the church and because of this some church members consider us wives to be leaders as well and will confide in us from time time. As they confide in us, some might be slandering, revealing secrets, or gossip; while others are truly trying to figure out a dilemma in their life.
We must be spirit filled in order to handle these matters properly, and the best way is to conceal these matters. The word conceal means to keep from sight, hide, keep secret and to prevent from being known or noticed. How will we ever earn the trust of people if we never learn to conceal what we hear? We need to remember that what we say travels. Eccle 10:20 Curse not the king, no not in thy thought; and curse not the rich in thy bedchamber : for a bird of the air shall carry the voice, and that which hath wings shall tell the matter.
How do we handle those who try to tear down our husbands, his ministry, the church or attack our family? Hey mama bear? You in there? Yeah. You.
I know your son or daughter was being attacked but you got to put a leash on yourself. Grab a pot of honey, sit down and open up God's word before you
do anything else!
Psalm 5 is a great place to go. Instead of naturally fighting back, David takes refuge in the Lord through prayer vs 1-3
Sometimes when you hear that someone is speaking ill about you it's easier to handle than if it was spoken about your own family members. Maybe not, I guess it depends
on what type of person you are. How do you face that person in church? How do you let it go? Do you walk into church and tell that person you still love them regardless
of any unforgiveness? This is all about trusting what God's word ultimately says. It's not about "faking it" and pretending like everything is okay. It's literally allowing God to come through you to love that person back because you might not have the strength to love them.
There was a time in my life when I was in the darkest valley of my life. A family member had done something so low, so unbelievably cruel to me that I could not attend Christmas that year. In fact, I could not speak to this person for a few years. It's not that I could not forgive her. I did. I just didn't know how to love her. I didn't know how to show my dislike towards her. I prayed a lot about it as God was not allowing me to get away from this! After praying and crying and screaming, (I hope you all do that too) I said to God "I don't have the strength to love her! I can't do it! I just can't!" That still small voice said to me, Let me love her through you. Suddenly my tears stopped. Everything ounce of emotion that I had in this matter shut off and the lightbulb appeared over my head. I don't have to use my own strength to love her. I don't. God can do it! YEEEESS! That's it! I have been using this golden nugget God taught me since then.
So God is not looking for tale bears. He is looking for faithful persons who will conceal sensitive issues; building relationships by way of loyalty and allowing God to love people through us.
With Gratitude,
Linda
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