Becky Tinsley / Indian Hills Baptist Church

 

Becky Tinsley

Pastor's Wife

Indian Hills Baptist Church

Shreveport, LA

 

 

My name is Becky Tinsley "newer" Pastors wife of Indian Hills Baptist Church, Shreveport, Louisiana. My husband and I have truly enjoyed being the pastor of the church this past year and a half. We've been there for a total of 13 years. Being in this position has changed both Don and I for the better. But the changes that have taken place in us are the same thing the Bible talks about that God wants in all Christians not just pastors and pastors wives.

LOVE. One way to show compassion - when somebody is not there on a Sunday that's normally there send them a text message and just say,"hey I noticed you weren't there today! We missed your face friend! It's one thing to receive a message from your pastor of course he's going to notice that you weren't there but to receive it from others in the church would make me feel special....

VISITATION. Knock on new doors! You can make visits all day long and visit your bus kids and your Sunday school kids but if you want to help grow your church knock on a new street every Saturday. One thing I started telling people is that if Sunday mornings are hard for them because thats there one day off to sleep in then come on Sunday night or Wednesday night. We've had good church attendance on our Sunday night and Wednesday night crowds.

Be your church's DORCAS. Do special things for others all the time. Bake cookies for that older gentleman that may never get anything homemade. Slip a $20 bill in a birthday card for that woman that doesn't have much. Give your nicer clothes that your kids never wear to some of those bus kids that look like Raggedy Ann and Andy. Pay attention to people.

Be a WORKER. Teach your children to be workers. Let them help you clean up after a food and fellowship activity. Change the trash, run the vacuum cleaner, sweep the kitchen, clean the windows...nobody has to ask you to do any of those things! Help in the nursery and be faithful. You may not want to do it because you don't want to miss the church service but that same lady that works in it all the time would like to be in church too. Run people home and give others a break that do that every Sunday. If you know somebody lives out by you offer to take them home for once... 

IF YOU ARE THE PASTORS WIFE BE S.W.E.E.T.

You are the spirit of the church. Don't take things personally. People are people. Most people don't act with common sense. If you're lonely facebook is a great tool. Find a friend that maybe does not attend your church but another church.  Don't wait for people to invite you to things, you invite them to your house or out to eat! Also lastly don't put on some authority figure act. You're just a servant. Be sweet, these people are volunteers.. most of them anyways... not paid employees. Your not "above" anybody. Your merely a servant with a good attitude hopefully. 

     Stop focusing on the negative in your church. There's positive too!! Focus on that!! You will be much happier that way and your church needs you to be happy!!!!!!!